9 Dating Red FlagsDon't continue to date him if he does any of these... |
| He may seem like the perfect date. At first. But when the beer goggles wear off, turns out Prince Charming isn't so charming after all. If you see any of these dating red flags, think twice about letting yourself get too into him. He's not The One if...
1. It's all about him
It takes two to tango; it's the same way for convos. If he's literally monopolizing the talk and bragging how he's been there and done that, chances are that any relationship that you would have will be completely one-sided. Yes, he may be rattling on about his fascinating life story to impress you, but point is, he doesn't even bother to get to know you. That's not going to change.
2. He's distracted
This guy is perpetually connected. Throughout the date, he alternates his attention between you and his Blackberry, and that stupid Bluetooth never leaves his ear. Clearly, he doesn't have the courtesy to give you his undivided attention. Clearly, you should just disconnect him -- from your life.
3. He's a whiner
You barely went out together a couple of times, and he's already pouring out his sob stories to you? Red flag! Do you really want to hang out with a depressing bloke who's constantly ranting about his boss, talking bad about his ex and griping about life? Watch out -- if he badmouths an ex, he can badmouth you, too.
4. He's too vain
Just because he's good-looking, wears designer shirts, sports a Rolex, and has an expensive ride doesn't mean he is a good catch. Don't be fooled by his outward appearance -- all the blings he's flaunting only shows how frivolous he is with money. If he squanders his paycheck to feed his vanity, don't expect him to have any savings for the future. Remember, a man who is overly obsessed with himself and his material things has no room to value you.
5. He expects you to pay
Etiquette 101: It's chivalrous for a man to pay on the first date -- or at least go Dutch. If he's unwilling to flash his own cash but expects you to pick up the tab, he's either really stingy or really broke. And both aren't good signs.
6. He ogles at other women
Checking out other ladies while he's out with you is enough to send the alarm bells ringing, but if he goes even further and starts flirting with them, don't stick around to find out whether he gets lucky. A date who is keeping his options open and blatantly doing it in your face has zero respect for women. Even if you become his girlfriend, don't be surprised if he's not interested in being exclusive. Do yourself a favor and drop this creep like a ton of bricks.
7. He's pushing you to go further
Whether he expects you to sleep with him before you're ready or he's trying to up the commitment stakes way before it's acceptable, any guy who's making you feel this uncomfortable clearly doesn't respect your feelings.
8. He makes all the decisions for you
He calls the shots on what to do, where to go, what movies to watch on dates. He even tells the waiter "we'll have two steaks, medium rare" -- without consulting you. These are all signs that he's got a controlling nature. If he wants to take charge all the time, think twice about getting involved -- especially if you value your independence.
9. He asks you out last minute
Be careful if he calls you for a get-together on the day itself, or a day before. You aren't a priority if you aren't on his calendar at least several days beforehand. If he really respects you, he'll arrange a date several days in advance. Don't put up with it. You're not some last-resort option just because he's got nothing better to do for the evening.
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